Converting
by Thembela
(Johannesburg, S.A)
A: You are in a tough spot...but what I am telling you here is exactly what I would do if I were in your position...
Your parents will more than likely not take this news well.
I can almost assure you that this is not what they wanted for their beloved "baby girl."
...So, if you are going to tell them, pick the time and place well. Make sure it is in the "cool of the evening," and that they are as relaxed and as comfortable and in the best mood possible.
...then ease the news on them in a slow & careful way.
But before you do that, you may want to do the following...
a) If you are living with them, move out.
b) If you are depending on them for anything, cut your independence.
c) Establish yourself as an independent, strong personality.
d) Brace yourself for an unfavorable reaction...but be ready to deal with it.
This is a part of growing up...making decision for yourself that others (not even your parents) will agree with.
Even if your parents get upset...and even cut you off for a while, if they truly love you, they will come around...but it will take time.
How long will it take? I don't know, it depends on your parents. Be aware that some parents may not even come around at all.
Be patient, be strong, hope and pray for the best.
Ask yourself the question...if it happens that my parents should cut me off and perhaps never come around, will I be strong enough to live with it?
If the answer comes back as "yes" go for it. If not you may want to re-consider.
