Q: Well I have been knowing this Jamaican man for about three years and I just start having sex with him this summer that passed. When he was here I was everything and now sad to say, he is gone now...but I do say I hear from him twice a week and nothing has changed. I don't have a funny feeling that something is going on, but do you think I can trust him cause I just love this man with all my heart and I knew when I first met him we were going to be with other.
Well, I don't know this man, but based upon what you told me, you can only hope that he is genuine...and that he sincerely feels the same way about you as you feel about him and is committed to the relationship.
Everybody is different and the fact that he is far away can put a lot of pressure on the commitment part of the relationship.
One thing you are going to have to do is maintain constant communication with him. If he is truly committed to you, you should be able to get him just about anytime you call as long as he is not busy working and so on. There should be no...not answering the phone when you call unless of course there is some kind of legitimate situation where he really cannot answer the phone. Which means you will need to know his routine.
There has to be openness on both end...no hide and seek...and you are going to have to trust him.
These are little litmus tests that you can use to tell what's going on on his end...but I have to tell you that it not going to be easy because he is so far away.
Most importantly, you are going to have to follow your gut feeling. If anything funny is going on, you should be able to sense it.
I hope things work out for you both.